Com 101 - Communication

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“stable set of perceptions you hold of yourself” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor 66-67). In the past, my self-concept was not healthy, I did not have very high self esteem which played a factor in how I perceived myself.

In Interview #2, with my best friend, I found him to speak of me with pretty high regard. Without sounding like a narcissist, I would have to agree with his evaluations of me. This positive feedback that I receive from him on a daily basis positively improves my self esteem. Self esteem is the “part of the self-concept that involves evaluations of self worth” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor 66-67). “Positive feedback provides them with a sense of healthy, balanced self esteem. These lessons thus teach and reinforce the foundation of healthy self-esteem is necessary for communication.” (Fostering Self-Esteem..).

In Interview #3, with an acquaintance, they said that, “You are always so positive that you will do well on tests” and “you seem very confident in what you say”. Because I have shown a positive self concept to the people I socialize with, “positive self evaluations can often be the starting point for positive communication with others” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor 66-67) I am perceived in a positive way, making is easier to communicate with others.

Part 3

When interacting with the two interviewees, I found myself happy with how it turned out. I do believe that I have high self esteem and a healthy self-concept, therefor I am pleased that those qualities are perceived well by others. I am a hard working person and both of my interviewees perceived me to have that same quality. If I were to have done this interview a few years back when I had low self esteem and a false self-concept, the answers would have likely been different from all three interviewees. Now that I am looking back to a few years ago, I notice that I did not have as many friends and my all of my relationships struggled in the area of communication. Having a positive self-concept and high self esteem is important in all aspects of life, especially communication. How we perceive ourselves only sets the tone for how everyone else perceives us.

Works Cited

Talons, Lex. "It’s Not What You Look at That Matters, It’s What You See. - Philosiblog." Philosiblog. AR Foundation, 10 Feb. 2012. Web. 23 Feb. 2016.

Adler, Ronald and Lawrence Rosenfeld and Russell Proctor. Interplay. New York:

Oxford, 2013. Print.

Oswalt, Angela. "Fostering Self-Esteem with Communication - Self Esteem." <i>Fostering Self-Esteem with Communication - Self Esteem</i>. Mark Dambeck, Ph.D., 12 Feb. 2010. Web. 23 Feb. 2016.

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