Family-Violence in a Common Society

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Certain religions are known for female suppression and family violence. As for instance, the Muslims believe, it is a man’s duty to punish their wives. Even in the Scottish Highlands, men punish their wives by slapping, when they make obvious mistakes or miss happens. According to Violence against Women in Families and Relationships:

“…Globally, wife-beating is seen as justified in some circumstances by a majority of the population in various countries, most commonly in situations of actual or suspected infidelity by wives or their disobedience toward a husband or partner.”[3]

These violent acts against a wife are often not considered a form of abuse by society (both men and women) but are considered to have been provoked by the behaviour of the wife, who is seen as being at fault. While beatings of wives are often a response to "inappropriate" behaviours, in many places extreme acts such as honour killings are approved by a high section of the society. Thus, it creates a pattern, as to whether violence is a commodity for remote societies, and as to what causes one to hurt a loved one. Does men have a biologically evolved gene to abuse women, or is it purely pride and psychological joy? As oppose to the religion Buddhism, where both genders are treated somewhat equally. Buddha taught that wives should be obedient to their husbands, he also taught that husbands should respect and honour their wives; a revolutionary view of human nature at the current time.

In our time, apart from various religions teaching us, what causes us to hurt our loved ones? Most commonly, abusers choose to behave violently to get what they want and gain control. Such behaviour often originates and draws comparisons from a sense of entitlement supported by sexist, racist, homophobic and other discriminatory attitudes. In other circumstances, reasoning could be defined as stress or psyche-disease.

Laws on domestic violence vary by country. While it is generally outlawed in the Western world, this is not the case in many developing countries. For instance, in 2010, the United Arab Emirates’ Supreme Court ruled that a man has the right to physically discipline his wife and children as long as he does not leave physical marks. The social acceptability of domestic violence also differs by country. In countries without the desperately needed helping-programmes, victims are forced into being conformists, and simply hide their grief and malaise. Which ultimately leads to even further abuse, as the women come to terms with the normalities.

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