Self-Esteem and Impression Management

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Akert, R.M., 2013). Getting into the right mindset during preparation training, and missions was a huge focus while in the military. I would not even call it a Military Mindset, as that does not accurately describe it. It’s more on having a never quit attitude. Part of the mindset training I learned while in the military requires you to look objectively at yourself and ask, “What are my weaknesses?”

If you can honestly answer that, then you will be on the right path to the never quit mindset, as it takes a logical and mature person to acknowledge a weakness. If you do not work daily on your weakness it will expose you. I try to work on my mindset everyday and teach my clients to do the same.

Also important is the mindset around my community. I live in an affluent community in Silicon Valley. My wife and I African American, and the only color in our neighborhood, and once and a while we may get an off the wall commit of ignorance. However, that’s their mindsets and social culture not mine (Aronson, E., Wilson, T.D. & Akert, R.M., 2013). One must be mentally strong in today’s society; there is so much negativity.

There are also face-to-face and written communication mindset styles. I have

health and fitness clients that I see one-on-one and clients I see online. The face-to-face mindset of giving up is head down and lack of motivation. Whereas, written communication shows blame and excuses for not preforming at their best.

Intrinsic/Extrinsic motivation

Intrinsic motivation is external rewards or pressures a person receives for engaging in an activity (Aronson, E., Wilson, T.D. & Akert, R.M., 2013). Extrinsic motivation is the external rewards or pressures (Aronson, E., Wilson, T.D. & Akert, R.M., 2013). My personal examples to illustrate intrinsic and extrinsic motivation are my business and my educational goals.

My intrinsic motivation in business comes from within, my personal goals and ambition to succeed is what’s driving me everyday. Every month I start all over and the goal is to break personal performance records and reach new levels of productivity. Most times are great and others are tough thirteen-hour days. However, my extrinsic motivation in business comes from external sources such as income for myself and family and freedom of schedule are my incentives to push my performance and motivation (Harackiewicz, J. M., 2000).

Another intrinsic and extrinsic motivation example is my educational goals. It’s personally hard work going back to school with a family and a full time business. My intrinsic motivation in school comes from my personal goals to achieve my master and my doctorate. My extrinsic motivation in education comes from external sources such as the potential income and opportunities a degree brings (Vallerand, et. al., 1992).

Finally, the intrinsic motivation to be there for my family, because going up I didn’t have a father or good role model, and I would like to change that for my children. Pleiss, M. K., & Feldhusen, J. F. (1995) describe how children need role models, and mentors in order to increase the likely hood of the child’s success rate in life. My personal intrinsic motivation for my children will be that role model so they can do achieve better results and make better choices in life.

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