The Truth Serum

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Lies of Magnitude

You might have come across the statement like, “You are the best boss in the whole world,” or “You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen.” Lies of magnitude or exaggeration come into force when a person tries to make something look better than it is in reality. Often, you will find that these lies are told in flattery or while boasting about one’s achievements. Again, the motivation behind such lies is either to get on the good side of someone and avoid difficult situations or to prevent conflicts or problematic state of affairs.

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on, I can’t believe you.”

~ Friederich Nietzsche

Plagiarism

Plagiarism is both lying and stealing. This type of lie is usually told at a work place, where an employee steals the work of another employee and calls it his own. It is fairly rampant in the virtual world, which is why Google had to come up with strict rules about copied content.

Fabrication

Fabrication is a form of lie when one tells a statement as if it were the truth, without even knowing the actual truth. It basically is a story you cook up based on false information or misinterpreted reality. This usually how rumors and gossip get started. And then, people say there can’t be smoke without a fire. The reality is that the fire might be the one you lit in your barbeque but by the time the story goes around, people will begin to believe you started and wild fire that cost hundreds of innocent animals their life!

Deception

This is a very hurtful form of lies. It often misleads a person or creates a false impression. For example, an employee tries to tarnish the image of a colleague by telling lies about him or your partner tried to cover up an illicit act by lying to you. If discovered, this deception can only lead to a loss of faith.

Now, that you know the different types of lies, let us take a look at the different types of liars.

Types of Liars

While learning to detect the lies that are being told to you, it is also important to judge the type of liar you are dealing with.

The Occasional Liar

Occasional liars do lie, but only under duress. And when they lie, they sink into a deep feeling of guilt. Such liars will generally ask for your forgiveness and admit their fault. They don’t lie with any malicious or harmful intent. The motive usually is to protect themselves.

The Frequent Liar

A frequent liar goes on lying whenever and wherever possible. Such a person is unconcerned whether he lies make sense or are covering his tracks. A frequent liar is generally seen twisting the story. You will easily be able to detect such liars, since their lies are usually so blatant that they are easily recognized as lies.

The Smooth Liar

As an experienced liar, a smooth liar has mastered the art of lying. Such people will often mislead you with their lies and make you fall into their trap. A smooth liar is generally good with his body language and words. Like Adolf Hitler said,

“Make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it.”

This perfectly fits in the case of a smooth liar.

The Compulsive Liar

Often regarded as a disease, compulsive liars end up lying even when it isn’t needed. They are addicted to lying and they don’t have control over it. Do you remember the Jim Carrey starrer “Liar Liar,” released in 1997? The character played by Jim Carrey suffered from compulsive lying disorder and would lie without even thinking about it. Of course, the movie took it to an extreme, where the character couldn’t tell the truth even if he tried, but it did give the general picture of compulsive lying.

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Chapter 2: Keep Your Friends Close and Enemies Closer – Is Your Partner Lying to You?[pic 7][pic 8]

Do you have a sneaking feeling that your partner is lying to you? Are you longing for a way to find out whether what your partner says they are up to when they aren’t with you is true? Detecting lies does not require psychic powers or mind reading abilities. How many movies and television series have you seen on telltale signs that someone is lying? Some of what they say is actually true and you can master these techniques too. Let us first take a look at why partners lie before we find ways to detect such lies. I will also tell you some tried and tested ways to handle the situation if you find that your partner is lying to you.

What Partners Lie About

Here are common situations in which partners are likely to lie.

Relational Issues

- Usually, partners lie or give excuses about why they cannot see you or spend time together. For instance, your partner may tell you that they are busy at work, or that they are not feeling well enough or they have some urgent errands to run.

- They lie about their past relationships, usually in order to avoid awkwardness, conflict or unnecessary arguments.

- Your partner may lie to you about his/her attraction towards another person. The reason for this is quite obvious!

- In a relationship, partners are found lying about their secret contact with a third person. This secret contact can be sexual or non-sexual.

- Partners are generally seen lying about their level of commitment to each other. This is because they are unsure of their feelings or uncertain about the future.

Sexual Issues

- Lovers usually conceal their sexual fantasies about somebody else during sex with their partners. Usually the fantasy involves a co-worker, partner’s family member or a friend.

- Men, in particular, have been found to lie about masturbating. They usually do not reveal the number