My Life in the Working

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After reading the results of this style of I feel like I am in such a negative position to grow I always hold myself back because of fear and doubt my potential to become better.

I admit when I read this as my backup thinking style I was unsure if this was accurate because I don’t see this to describe myself. I step back and think into it more it’s a little similar to being avoidance. Anyways I do think it kind of relates to how I was brought up by my family. In a traditional Chinese background so I am used to living with rules and having a daily routine.

We usually do everything together and I always have to seek approval from my dad if I could go out with friends or go anywhere I always had to report. So I grew up being distant and unnoticed because I just rather people not know and mind their own business.

It differs in the work area, I have respect for their rules and I don’t like to speak up with ideas since they might want change so I would let things be and not question authority because I just think its disrespectful and would rather not have any conflict. I just think that people just want to have their own way of doing things. From my experience in the kitchen I always have different trainers and they do things differently from what the other trainer would do. I just learn to just go with it because I don’t want to step on anyone especially when I’m just starting.

But I do agree by doing this and having no decision making of your own you don’t really learn anything your just a norm and you don’t stand out. And yes I do agree that you loose the essence of your individuality and uniqueness as a person because you are used to doing a routine. But it is never too late to change and this is a good self-actualization to improve.

Limiting Style

I chose oppositional ather than power and perfectionist, I believe this one really suits me the most but I do not believe that it describes me to the extent that the LSI assessment measures it. I got a 90 in the percentile meaning almost everyone is less oppositional than me. I don’t see that to be realistic. I know that I am argumentative but mostly in my personal life and I see this as my limiting style in relation to having low self esteem and I cope by being sarcastic and talk to others by making them think I’m better than them and I am prone to opposing things indirectly like blaming others for my misfortune and decisions. From the description given by the circumplex results as an oppositional thinker I do tend to use the defensive and aggressive strategy of disagreeing with others by also stubborn and will not let go of a wrong.

A good example would be when I was in a relationship, I get really argumentative and am slow to let it go, I was being immature rather than talking it out I would rather not and just walk out and make a scene by trying to seek his attention to follow me and comfort me. Also rather than getting the information like how a regular couple should do, I would always go for the bad cop style of interrogating my boyfriend just to get the answer I wanted.

As for work I never had any issues with co employees, I would always be compliant and avoid any conflicts at work. But I know that I should never even use this as part of my management skills If I don’t want to risk losing an employee or be file for verbally assaulting a co employee.

I know for a fact that this would not only affect me personally but it could affect me professionally as well. My way of thinking is if you don’t have a good personality or lifestyle outside work you could unintentionally bring that habit to work. Being a professional is not supposed to be just in work you should know how to carry yourself outside of work as well. And I would want t change and be calmer than arguing to a person because they're close to me just to grab that sense of hold in the relationship. I would change and be more sensitive to others it’s a part of growing and gaining a sense of maturity.

Part 2: Impact on Management Style

I have to agree that personal styles have an impact on a person through management skills. It would either have a negative impact or a positive impact depending on their personality. For example, if this person who uses a humanistic encouraging style compared to an Oppositional style, they would obviously have different outputs in a management. A person who has a humanistic encouraging style would be more concern for the growth and development of a person, nurturing and appreciates the strength of a person and for the oppositional style they tend to empower and seek self-empowerment and have a manipulative behavior to getting things done instead of being motivating and empowering others they would give off a negative and cynical attitude towards others.

As having avoidance as my primary style, I find my management style to be different from the result that I got from the survey. Which really confuses me about what my personality tells of me.

So the four basic management styles in the textbook by Stephen P. Robbins Organizational Behavior, 16th edition stated are :

- Planning - When planning my work, I would always focus first with time. I would schedule my day for those events. I feel its more efficient to have everything all planned out especially with time so I know when I could get things done and I have a basisi on what time I have to get work done.

- Organiziing- I would organize everything first from the hardest load to the easiest one to finish because it is more effective to prioritize the task that would need time to finish compared to the easiest tasks. Time management skills is very important for me to get things done and another is organizing my stuff so I would know where each one would be and I wouldn’t waste time and energy on looking for things that I would need.

- Leading- An avoidance person usually doesn’t lead by example but I do, they tend to hide and be unnotice of what they do wrong. I would be aware of my habbits and I would always think everybody is watching my every move, so I would rather do things right and avoid short cuts in work because I know better and I hope to be a good leader one day and it’s better to start now than never.

- Controlling- Maybe this is where my avoidance personal style comes in, I can never control a situation I would always go with the flow. I don’t believe I have the capabilities to control and be secure of the situation since I do have low self-esteem. I know that I have to change and be more confidence and trust myself more, and I would think I would learn that by getting more experience in