Keepsake of a Cremation Urn

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spiritually with us. In other family’s they value a keepsake for someone who’s still alive or just value something that they think is a keepsake, so they wouldn’t know the feeling of sharing a keepsake value that actually has a deep connection to it. A deep connection with a love one that’s no longer coming back can often times leave a person in a horrible place, they start to feel like nobody’s there for them at times, and often times start to not trust people.

When my aunt passed I was so torn by it, even though I was young and really didn’t understand the meaning of someone passing away. My aunt was my favorite auntie out of all my aunt’s and I was her favorite little niece. My aunt was the only person that could handle me and give what I wanted at the same time, meaning she would yell at me and I would respect her because she didn’t play but she spoiled me right after that. She always use to say “Little girl you act just like me when I was little” and I would say “how did you use to act” and she said “Like a little whiny Brat”!. I remember a time I went out of town with her for the first time and I wasn’t suppose to go but I begged her to take me with her and her husband, they were going to Myrtle beach in south carolina just to get away and she got sick of me asking so she said “yes crybaby little girl just but don’t tell nobody”! I was so happy that I didn’t know what to do. We got on a plane and that was my first time getting on a plane so of course I was scared but I eventually got over it. When we landed we stopped at this hotel called “Myrtle beach breaker” right in the back of the actual beach, that was the best hotel ever. As a kid anything seems fun so we unloaded our stuff and walked the stripped, stopped in stores and I got everything I wanted. The next day, we went to the beach/resort and I got in the water and my aunt got on this slide with me and her husband took pictures. Later that night we went out to eat at this buffet called “Hometown buffet” that was the best resturant I’ve ever been too. Sadly, that was the last night of our vacation but I didn’t care because I had the best time of my life. I remember that vacation like it was yesterday that’s how much fun I was having, with my aunt not being here still till this day breaks my heart but i’m slowing griefing and nobody in my family would understand the relationship we had. The word that’s used to cope with death is “grieving”.

Grieving is basically the keywords of getting over a death, but handling it in a different way. The way I grieve over the loss of my aunt is I try not to think about her so much like I used too, I also learned that I have to be kind to myself and always remember that if nobody got me then I got myself. I also started to talk to my mom about it and asked her how did she get over it. I also joined a grieving club that taught me how to get over the pain and guilt feeling that I was feeling. The club showed me that I wasn’t alone and that there were other people in the same situation as me so that really helped me get over it. My family is also still going through the grieving process and passing my aunt around helps us all get through the grieving process.

The keepsake my family holds brings out the relational and personal meanings to the value of the urn. This object holds memory’s that will soon become inherited. This special item is something my family will cherish for the rest of our lives. Even we if we decide to let her ashes be free she will always hold a special place in